I am intrigued to finish this book entitled ‘Emotional Agility’ by Susan David. I only finished three chapters and I felt so excited to share this. This book basically teaches us how to understand our emotion and how to align our feelings with the things we do.
I saw this list of situations stated in Susan’s book. How many have you ticked? When I came across this, I felt that someone just read my mind aloud.
Extracted from “Emotional Agility by Susan David”
There is always a thin line between ‘constructive feedback’ and ‘destructive criticism’. The truth is, most of the time, we are the ones that turn a constructive feedback to a destructive criticism. We illustrate what people think or mean. Sometimes, these illustrations might not even true.
Perhaps, it was true that I couldn’t write a perfect law article according to a small group of people. However, ‘not doing great’ doesn’t mean that I should ‘stop doing’. In fact, I should keep doing it until I am better. I love writing. That’s also one reason why I started this blog.
Soon I realize that constructive feedback motives us. It’s meant to tackle the core issues. Destructive criticism attacks the mind and hurts the soul. It doesn’t help to find the solutions.
There is always a mixture of lovers and haters in this world. We often stumbled upon the view of a small group of people before we could present our ideas to a bigger audience.
We do not need everyone to be on our side to start something. Obama didn’t have everyone’s vote to become the president. Obama defeated Romney with 332 electoral votes to Romney’s 206.
One thing I keep reminding myself, if I want someone to love my work, I need to love it first. I can’t be one of the haters to my own goal.
Have you shared your dream or goal with someone before? I believe most of us do.
Do you remember how many smirks that you get when you told them your ideas? I always amazed by how quickly one person gives me that look of disbelief. Why should I give up my dream just because of the disapproval from one or two people?
Before I started this blog, someone threw me so many questions which I could drown. ‘There are so many blogs out there, like more than millions. What makes you think you will stand out?’
‘What makes you think people will want to spend time reading your articles?’
‘There are so many professional photographers take nicer and cooler pictures than you. What makes you think your blog will stand out?’
Yes. I know those issues and unfortunately, I do not have the answer. However, I am eager to find out ‘how’. I always believe that we should open up to listen to others’ opinion. Then, filter the opinions so that they do not dilute our passion and motivation.
Well, what I wrote here is purely just my thought. Hope you feel better if you had felt sad after getting some criticisms.